Desire is a bridge that connects our dreams and yet hampers our fondest wishes from taking off. It is also the key that fits our lock of intent, but does not allow us to open the device for fear of losing power or control. When this happens, as our philosophers contend, our desires become “rock-solid,” bringing the most dominant of our aspirations down — in one fell swoop.
As the Buddha extolled, the reverse of desire is detachment. He further emphasised that of the four noble truths, it is desire that triggers the maximum misery. The whole idea is simple and profound. When you scan your mind to “tap” the area where your desire dwells, you will promptly know that it clouds your vision — including your whole perspective and purpose of life, your relationships and values, more so in the weighty silhouette of your yearning for the coveted desire you may have had, for long.
Is there a way out to overcome your spiral of desire, you may well ask. There is — provided you dispassionately bring yourself “head to head” with it. And when you break the shackles of desire that keep you in its stranglehold. Also, so long as you do not spread the thought of letting go of your desire, there is no way you can melt its vice-like grip. Well, there is more to desire in today’s context — a healthy desire is all right, provided you free yourself from your ulterior motives, dreams and usher in a profound sense of love, empathy and compassion into your mind, body, heart and soul.
Pride is akin to desire in more ways than one — it celebrates the unquenchable sense of self or ego that governs the soul of our being. Its smugness is agreement epitomised, a sort of compulsion to oneself. When we are filled with pride there’s an overwhelming necessity for conceited adulation and arrogance. Is there a way out of this stalemate? There is — when you replace pride with humility and simplicity and not take refuge in self-praise or self-aggrandisement. When you are able to achieve this delicate balance, you equate your life with a sense of righteousness. Soon enough, your old pride just dissipates like the early morning mist to the rising warmth of the sun.
When a wanton desire or pride, does not cast its shadow on our life’s journey, the outcome is predictable. We establish a godly connection that makes us feel like we have touched the face of our mind’s mountain — in other words, the divine face of god.
There is no need for us to be a zen master, sage, mystic or guru to feel the presence of god. This is because anyone who speaks the language of god, without desire, expectation or pride, would automatically know and appreciate that there is just one best roadmap, or path, to the divine spring. As Carlos Castaneda puts it, “Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you feel is necessary. Then ask yourself and yourself alone, one question. Does this path have a heart? If it does, it is good; if it doesn’t, then it is of no use.”
Is this asking for the impossible? Not really, if one accepts oneself, as one is — not what one wants or wishes to be. This is the path that propels our soul growth process around our spiritual backdrop or landscape.

(The writer is a wellness physician, independent researcher, and author)
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Rajgopal Nidamboor
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