We all hold a sense of responsibility, or commitment, to succeed. The more we believe that the onus is on us, not on someone else, the better it is for us. This is because there are a host of avenues available with and within us to ‘up’ our effort and improve our lot, and achieve what we want to — without leading someone else’s life, or dream. This is, of course, not as easy as it appears to be. The reason is simple — to achieve a true sense of composure in a world that has annoyingly gone out of kilter, one has to place minimal value on job positions, designations, or career success, while espousing a pragmatic, or amplified, objective for the good of one and all.
All of us have the bandwidth to achieve for oneself what one aspires for, including helping others to fulfil their aspirations, if not dreams. To realise this intent, one would need to draw one’s motivation with far-reaching awareness — our philosophers call it the higher self. It represents our true destiny, as also divine intervention. It epitomises what we can be to assist others, without allowing our familial and other social pressures to undermine our purpose. In other words, doing a good turn is nothing but the natural ability, or power, that we are all gifted with — to make the most of what we have, not what we don’t have. It also exemplifies the fact that we can all ‘best’ gratify ourselves when we look beyond ourselves. This is the multihued fusion of our life; it should always be so. Not a facade, but genuine, resident desire — a well-intended foray to nurture our existence and, in so doing, fulfil our individual purpose while becoming a favourable force for the good of all.
This is again not as easy as it appears to be — it needs focus, a good deal of honing of the mind and its potential. It also relates to what is advocated as affirmative philosophy, founded on the conviction that there is, within all of us, a profound, central or inhabitant tone of voice that urges us to work for a better world and a better tomorrow. The whole idea is, of course, riddled with complexity — yet, it provides us with the cudgels to challenge ourselves and surmount adversities. More than anything else, it propels our mind to believe in oneself and concur with the piece of evidence that we all possess immense, albeit untapped, potential for affirmative action and growth. The whole spectrum relates as much to decoding our own situation as also to what level we need to bring about not just change, but real transformation, including the ability to be in sync with our own higher self — and, yet not be reminiscent of the angst of the past, long gone by. In simple terms, it exemplifies our belief that things will work out positively well.
Life is a challenge. Challenges are fundamental factors that activate our inclination to do well in life. For one who exudes powerful feelings, while living in the present-moment, not the past, or the future, troubled thoughts would no longer affect them. Distressed thoughts are often the outcome of our pessimistic emotions, or upheavals, that we have not surmounted yet. The more we get into the skin of such thoughts, the worse the effect. The inference is palpable. It takes formidable effort to overcome such a rut and emerge from our ‘self-imposed’ aloofness, or ‘break the shackles’ and grow up into individuals one would really want to be — and, not what others want us to be.
(The writer is a wellness
physician and author)
Columnist: 
Rajgopal Nidamboor
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