Our life is a veritable temple of happiness, difficulties, adversities, and a ho­st of other complexities. No­twithstanding a plethora of such undulating elements, life is the best thing that has happened for all of us — whatever our situation. For some, life is a breeze because things seem to be working well; for others, there is a stumbling block at each step — despite their best efforts. The latter often ‘emote’ a latent, yet perceptible whinge — that life is a burden, a joy which reads like a poem on paper, but not in reality. They think of themselves as victims — victims of a pointless journey, because no matter the quantum mechanics of their concerted endeavours, there is hardly anything rosy to look forward to. It is a paradox of contrasts — because, for one who is on cloud nine, life is all ‘hah-hah, hee-hee.’ This is because, their inner resources have worked with vitality and staying clout, almost like magic — but, the important point is, they have ‘never given up’ on their objective when things were not hunky-dory, unlike those folks that threw in the towel far too quickly and failed.
The most sceptical thing is: people who fail don’t seem to think that they too can, like successful people, accomplish what they have set out to — with panache and ease. It does not take a village, after all, for one, who has lost all hope, or is specially-challenged, to emerge from the dance of the shadows, or the depths of murkiness to conquer innumerable odds on their way towards achieving what they want to. They can derive inspiration from ordinary people — people who have achieved amazing outcomes despite being subject to a major physical challenge, a serious bodily shortcoming, or a difficult illness. They are people who have gone through and faced stressful situations, just like ‘us’ — but, what elevated the success quotient for them is they never ever carped about their gloomy song of one’s ‘burden,’ unlike someone that failed because they could not confront, or take the adversity bull by the horn.
We can all prevail, if only we swerve from our consoles and aim for new horizons — which aren’t too difficult to reach, or surmount. This is because galvanising oneself from one’s contended locale is the most formidable thing for anyone to do. However, the surprising fact is if we do, it helps us to become what we want, or wish, for everything we do. It propels us with the power to triumph over our negative emotional or mental blocks and stride our way to fulfil our positive objectives. This is tantamount to driving away the dark clouds of doom from our mind. It is also offsetting the perception of others that you just can’t make it.
This identical frame of reference holds good to the glowing tapestry of happiness, elation, rapture and enthusiasm, too. While it is agreed that happiness is a difficult emotion to restrain, unlike grief, because it can have a thousand hues — it also corresponds to a bizarre synthesis of contrasts, primarily because everything is subject to change, including happiness, not to speak of distress. Change, it is rightly said, is a constant. Nothing can always be the same — even the river changes its waters, just like our emotional responses to circumstances that we know and do not know yet, albeit most of us think, or fancy, that we are endowed with a high level of conscious awareness. This is actually a chimera — we tend to distil our own discomfort when it does not yet exist and happiness when it is right within our grasp.

(The writer is a wellness
physician and author)
Columnist: 
Rajgopal Nidamboor
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